There was so much that puzzled her. I am no authority on matters of sex or sexuality. I do have the good fortune to have access to a body of literature as well as friends who work on issues of sexuality and sexual and reproductive health rights.
As a result, I think I am fairly informed and sensible about the subject. We got lucky — my niece and I — that we have a relationship that allows her to talk and ask questions about a subject that the average adult would rather avoid; that we have the time and the space to share thoughts and ideas. What about the thousands of other young teenagers, who find it difficult to talk to their parents or other adult caregivers and do not have access to information unbiased or not about matters of sex and sexuality.
A majority acquire some information about the mechanics of sex by way of stories, rumours and innuendo or by way of a talk on duty and responsibility in which sexual behaviour maybe mentioned. Not only is your body going through all kinds of changes but your mind and emotions are also confused. And your only true companions in this journey are your peers who are also on the same roller coaster ride.
Parents and other adults are incidental. One of the studies conducted by Ariely focused on the influence of sexual arousal on decision making among sexually active young men. The study, conducted among young male students in the University of California Berkeley 2 was designed to test if a state of sexual arousal influenced three aspects of judgment and choice — preferences for a wide range of sexual stimuli; willingness to engage in morally questionable behaviour; and their willingness to engage in unprotected sex, and whether the young men could accurately predict these influences.
It also underlines that people are not able to predict how they will behave when in the grip of a strong emotion. The most attractive of these of course, are those that are considered so bad that people hardly talk about them — experimentation with drugs, alcohol and sex. Sex education as we know it now is somewhat like a biology lesson focused on the reproductive system. Most young people walk away from those lessons with a working knowledge of the reproductive system and safer sex behaviours, but remain confused about what to do and how to manage when faced with a situation that requires sexual decision-making.
The ABC Abstinence, Be faithful, use a Condom model of education assumes that young persons have the ability not to give in to peer pressure; have the ability to switch off passion when required and if the first two fail, have a condom easily available just in case!
When two young people get together the last thing they think about is a condom and safer sex. Should I let him kiss me? Will my parents know? What am I supposed to do? Can anyone see us? Will we be friends after this? It becomes imperative therefore that the information that is provided to young people goes beyond the mechanics to address the emotions that go with sex.
The focus should be on strategies to deal with the emotions that accompany sexual arousal. Young people should realise they have two options — to walk away before a situation becomes too difficult to resist or learn to deal the bigger picture with the consequences of saying yes in the heat of the moment.
The ABC Abstinence, To learn to walk away before it Be faithful, use a gets too difficult, the teenager has got to know himself or herself Condom model of — what are the triggers that can education assumes set them off? Learning how to bridge this gap is essential in making some pressure; have the of the important decisions of our ability to switch lives.
This can be facilitated by ensuring that young first two fail, have persons have access to sexuality a condom easily education that is comprehensive, affirming and accurate; sexuality available just in education that leaves them informed and aware about sex and their sexual case!
We need to remember that we are addressing young people not animals. They are on a steep learning curve, enthusiastic and anxious to get information that will help them make smarter decisions. Why do have to grope in the dark? She is based in Gurgaon, where in partnership with a friend, she has set up a space that offers different wellness therapies, to help individuals live healthy, happy and harmonious lives.
At some point, I broke into a movie that had already begun. In this independent American film directed by Craig Gillespie, Lars Lindstrom is a young man who appears dysfunctional in his relationships, or lack of them — he finds it difficult to interact with or relate to his family, his colleagues, or his fellow parishioners in the church in his small town.
And he experiences severe pain when touched, even lightly. Enter Bianca. When this shy young man announces that Bianca is coming to visit him, his family — brother Gus and sister-in-law Karin — is thrilled. Or should they just get Lars to face reality? Meanwhile, freed up from the pressure to interact by a non-interactive relationship with a doll, Lars begins to introduce Bianca as his girlfriend to his coworkers and various townspeople. Aware of the situation, everyone reacts to the doll as if she were real, and Bianca soon finds herself involved in volunteer programs, getting a makeover from the local beautician, and working parttime as a model in a clothing store.
Due to their acceptance of Bianca, Lars soon finds himself interacting more with people. In , Lars and the Real Girl won one Oscar nomination and numerous other awards in the United States where it was commercially released.
Ryan Gosling expectedly — and deservedly — won several of these for his tour de performance as Lars. He takes over the character and makes it his own. He is Lars. This was his first feature film. Lars and the Real Girl stands out for many reasons. To begin with, the concept of the blow-up doll. What if we brought kindness and compassion to the table?
When she comes out of the salon after a perm, you notice her haircut. A doll? But it does not milk this reaction. Instead of developing into a flatout, slapstick comedy, it becomes a whimsical allegory that touches on serious issues related to emotional isolation and the unacknowledged inability to handle personal loss.
Lars withdrew into his shell after the death of his parents. But, here I am, going through at least three Kleenex even after the movie is over. Far from it. Neither does it strike a false note. Yes, there are scenes with Lars and the Real Girl lying in bed with one another, but no. Somehow, we never see them having sex. Was it because sex with a doll would be seen as too sordid — and pull audience identification away from Lars?
Who knows? Despite this one shortcoming, Lars and… remains a masterpiece of independent cinema. Bishakha Datta is a non-fiction writer and filmmaker who is currently writing Selling Sex, a book on the lives, realities and struggles of sex workers in Kolkata, India. They, the people who came all the way from Madhya Pradesh, Kathmandu and Kasaragod, are my relatives. My mom said to me. They brought me ornaments, washing soaps and talcum powder.
But I was pretty enough without these things. And then she would kiss my cheeks. Now, do you want to listen to my story? But one guy did. He was my friend. He talked with me very late every night. He called himself Vishnu, the Creator. But my mom did not know this.
He asked me not to tell her. And my dad, he lived in the far away land. He came home once in a blue moon. Vishnu amused me whenever He made His presence.
He understood my language. I think He had a plethora of relatives who would gift him so often that he wore so many ornaments.
He even asked me to wear one. The golden ear rings. I kindly rejected it. Sooner I began spending my days with Him, I found myself filled with lot of doubts. Vishnu would clear all those doubts in the night and told me how to live.
The clever mason provided us steps to climb up to our home. It was of a simple and elegant design. That evening I realised there existed. Vishnu would appear only to my eyes. Not to anyone else, not even to my mom. One fine evening, my mother took me near the main door.
My house was a three story building and. Madhya Pradesh, Kathmandu, Kasaragod and the far away land, I had no idea what they meant. My mom told me new things when she was feeding me. But no one understood my language. Soon after that evening, I died seeing outside. There was surely something mysterious beyond the door. I loved to explore it at any cost. But how would I do that? I could not walk. I could not even crawl, my limbs were light.
My mom took me wherever needed, in her shoulders. But she never took me outside, the world that was beyond the main door. When someone opened the door, I would silently admire the rays of light falling into my home.
But where did these rays come from? I wondered, wondered and wondered. I asked Vishnu one day to take me out. But He said that He would take me. He never said when. Every morning I would call Vishnu to take me to the outside world.
But He was so busy that He kept detaining my wishes. I asked Vishnu to at least guide me in my attempts. He blessed me to succeed. So I started planning so that I could achieve my mission at the earliest. Meanwhile, I was so busy planning, people would flow into my house to wish me, to bless me and to kiss me. Chander, my maternal uncle, he would always take me in his hands and pose for photos. My mom would hesitatingly comply his orders.
And he left home with the photos. He did nothing else. There was another human being whom I like, Khatija. She lived in the. She would come every evening and kiss my forehead. She looked very beautiful. I would get pleased on seeing her; she had the powers to make me happy. I would leave a smile. Sometimes she would bring a black paper wrapped book in her hand and recited verses which I never understood.
That night I asked Vishnu about Allah. Vishnu disappeared suddenly. But after few moments, I heard someone calling me. But I could not see you. But your voice resembles much similar to my friend Vishnu! I realized that the dawn had arrived. My mother, if you believe me, was a very kind woman. She kept telling her difficulties to me before falling asleep. She had a lot of chores every day to do.
Nevertheless, she missed my dad a lot. She worked from morning to night, with very less resting periods in between. And I would assuage her pain every day, by emptying her breasts. She felt happy when my hunger vanished. I explained to Vishnu about my interests and He blessed me to succeed as usual. He said that He had some important job in the overseas, so He could not meet me for a week.
So, I was staying alone that week, my thoughts. Suddenly she ran to the kitchen to switch off the kettle when that time, I crawled slowly and almost reached the door. It was open and I peeked out. Oh my God! The view was beautiful.
There was a cow; there was a parrot and a jasmine shrub. Without realising the presence of steps, I placed my hands down, due to imbalance in my physical state, I started rolling down and had hurt myself in my hands and legs.
I could not take in the imbroglio I faced. All hell broke loose for my. I was kept in ICU for two odd hours, later when through the window I could get a view of a man who slapped my mom very hard on her cheeks. The nurse informed them that I woke up; I could clearly get the view of the man.
He came near me, took me in his arms, and kissed me all over. I never felt so much cared in my life. It was a heavenly feeling when I was resting in his hands. He had a black moustache and a trimmed beard.
He looked handsome like Vishnu. My mother whispered in my ears, that my father had arrived from the far away land. I was so proud when my father was holding me, the affection I could sense in his eyes. And behind him, I. It was Vishnu. Yuva Dares to Bring Open Closet. Draupadi, Sita and Helen of Troy. The Case of Missing Servant. Review: Girl with Dragon Tattoo. Constant Princess by Philipa Gregory.
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But, crib about harmless story tweets to be unt… twitter. What are you guy… twitter. Blore healthcare system crumbled even before 10k cases. While demolishing colleges in India and unleashing full wrath of state… twitter. Tracy Black is the pseudonym for the author who writes about her childhood of abuse. I first heard of Hush it was after we started organising and talking about CSA. This month you are required to first believe in yourself.
You are entering a phase which allows you undertake and execute opportunities successfully. In business three things that are of utmost importance for you are knowledge power and timing. There is travel in your chart which will open up a new avenue during the latter part of the month.
Do consider it seriously. Professionals in the field of finance should spruce up their marketing skills. Those in sales jobs should strengthen their communication abilities and those in creative fields must think out of the box this month. Dear Aries this month you will have to be the change that you wish to see in the environment.
It s all about executing those little ideas that you ve held to yourself for so long once you do abundance will flow effortlessly. Arians who have wanted to change their jobs will find new avenues to explore the 15th to the 23rd indicates this. Since Mars is governing you at the moment your ambitious nature will allow you to look at opportunities in a determined fashion.
Your success this month depends on your communication skills and your powers of observation. Children who are looking at further studies should explore options abroad. It s time you understand this as you dear Taurus are meant for greater things. You tend to limit yourself because you are afraid. So what if things don t happen the way you planned The world will not judge you. From the 2nd to the 13th you will be entering a period of change.
So make the most of it. Look at new challenges and allow new business ideas to flow. Venus is working her wonders on your chart due to which Taurians in business will be successful in starting new ventures in the fields of exports management hospitality and transport. Professionals looking for new jobs should hold their horses it will take the better half of the month to find something lucrative. Remember being patient allows you to pay attention to the details you may have ignored.
This month is all about paying attention to those finer points. From the 5th to the 27th you will enter a period that will require you to pay attention to minor details this will help you attain appreciation and fame.
Endeavours that you thought had come to naught will now bear fruit and new avenues will open up. Water is a great source of power rejuvenation and inspiration for you.
Artists musicians and editors will do brilliantly during this time. If you are in business you may want to play some mind games in order to stay in the league. Professions like mining public relations hospitality the occult sciences and psychology will be beneficial for you. Cancer August 23 - September 22 Virgo hen we love we always strive to become better than we are.
When we strive to become better than we are everything around us becomes better too. Paulo Coelho wrote these lines in The Alchemist and this is the story of your life dear Virgo. You work best when you feel loved treasured and supported. This month brings an ending to all those negative beliefs relationships identities and financial drainers that have served no purpose in your life.
A new dawn is arriving and it s time you basked in its glory. Professionals will increase their net worth. There are new opportunities awaiting you in another field of work so feel free to explore this area.
Virgos who have wanted to shift to a new workspace will be able to do so. In business stability is assured as you are entering a period of recovery. Impromptu travel will bring far more work your way. W Virgo Leo P June 21 - July 22 July 23 - August 22 Leo W ell Leo your imaginative nature practicality courage and excellent leadership qualities allow you to take control of all the chaos that surrounds you. This is not the easiest month as it denotes endings in relationships surrounding your professional life and new beginnings in your personal space.
Anna Eleanor Roosevelt once said Do one thing every day that scares you. Leo you may just end up doing more than one of these things this month Please be cautious of misinterpretations amongst colleagues at work till the 10th.
Unnecessary speculation in stocks may create a dent in your bank account. Those in a business space may find that their marketing skills are tested. However this period proves fruitful for Leos who are interested in higher education finance research medicine and advertising. If you are preparing for a competitive exam you will fare well.
You are scared of hurting people with your bluntness so you keep adding to the confusion by asking various associates for advice. Do yourself a favour and stop this upheaval and constant judgement. Don t ask. Act Action will delineate and define you and your future. From the 6th there will be a lot of decisions that you will have to make professionally with your partners and clients.
You should tread carefully in partnerships as miscalculations may create differences leading to endings. Keep your paperwork up to date and don t let anyone take you for a ride when it comes to your money. The best professions for you are in banking chartered accountancy the entertainment business media and public relations.
T Libra Scorpio October 23 - November 21 Sagittarius ear Scorpio you have an extremely strong personality and you are full of courage pride ambition envy great passion and the ability to dream.
Your dreams are important to you as they are made up of images memories and lost hopes being fulfilled. This month it s imperative that you allow yourself to rebuild a lost dream which should see fruition from the 17th to the 29th.
Don t worry about the result just act the reaction of your actions will not only be financially and socially acceptable but also successful. Scorpios in a professional space will make new contacts that in turn will open up new avenues of work for them. Your job will entail travelling this month. Finally don t say no to any work that comes your way.
Sagittarius Scorpio D November 22 - December 21 agittarius within you resides a philosopher and a revolutionary due to which you sometimes want to adapt to the world in its boring shades and at other times you want to change it to the way you imagine it should be.
However to a spectator it appears like you are struggling to do both. This month will allow you to move forward in your career which will in turn allow you to aim higher and bring in the changes you so desire. All you have to do is to take-off please don t sit on the runway and start dissecting the mechanics of the plan and the destination That simply won t do The time that you are meant to be air-borne is now.
Change your attitude in order to gain altitude. S VARIETY 83 Capricorn December 22 - January 19 Capricorn t s strange that in this economic upheaval where the financial world is constantly collapsing and being reborn you my dear are even more intent on starting a new venture. Your practical side says otherwise but your intuition may win the day. From the 15th to the 28th comes a period of power and financial opportunity that will allow you to start new ventures and stabilise existing businesses.
Professionals in the field of media the food business and export need to be tactful as payments could get delayed. The possibility of shifting cities is also on the cards due to a new work opportunity. Capricornians in the property market will manage to close pending deals and those working in consultancy and the stock market will increase their net worth.
I January 20 - February 18 Aquarius Pisces ear Aquarius you seem to have a personality that yearns to be in control of everything that is happening in your personal and professional space. You make plans and when they don t happen the way you want them to you tire yourself out by constantly thinking of reasons as to why they didn t work out.
This month certain spontaneous actions will take place in your personal space that will be profitable professionally. You may not be able to control what occurs as it will crop up quite unexpectedly. Just trust in the fact that there is a higher order working for you.
I understand that you want the answers to every equation on the planet but sometimes it pays to have a little faith. Aquarius Pisces D ou are the last of the zodiac signs but you are also the most intelligent of them all. The fish that swim in opposite directions as depicted in your sign allow you not only to be imaginative kind and intuitive but also whimsical stubborn and erratic. It s time you balanced all these attributes. This is a transformational month for you from the 13th to the 24th you enter a phase where you will shed your old skin and shine in a new one.
You know what happen with my reading slump in Brotherhood: Dharma, Destiny, and the American Dream by Deepak and Sanjiv Chopra is When i finished read this books i fell disgusted with man in India who molested their own child or their own relatives boy or girl in such young age. How come daddy?
I read this books frustatingly. I try to ignore the fact but i can't. The books told everything. It really disgust me what are they doing to their biy and girl? It is no jokes here. I still remembered clearly that one of my freinds is going to India and using public bus and suddenly old man grabbed her thigh. I can imagine the children In India can't do anything when they being sexually abused :' The Law in India also giving more benefits to the culprit not to the victims :' This books is really interesting and i will try looking for any update edition since it published in around and revised in I wonder is there any changes in 6 years for Child Sexual abuse in India?
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